As you approach menopause, you may begin to fear that your sexual life may change – and not for the better. Menopause starts after a year without menstruation. These natural changes can be aggravating, in part because they affect the way sex feels as well as your degree of sexual desire.
That being said, if you've heard or read that you won't be able to orgasm after menopause, you should be aware that this is absolutely wrong. Orgasms as well as amazing sex are still possible, even after menopause. Here is a list of nine tips for good sex after menopause.
1. Consider pelvic floor therapy
The muscles that hold your bladder and vagina might become weak or tight. Both may cause pain during sex. Kegel exercises might help you in training your pelvic floor. However, you should know which ones to perform because they might exacerbate tight muscles. For the proper diagnosis and therapy, ask your doctor to send you to a pelvic floor physical therapist.
2. Try lubricants
Vaginal dryness is one of the changes you'll notice when it comes to sex and menopause. This condition can make sex painful for both partners, so a good lubricant can be essential. You may experiment with different smells and flavors. However, when choosing a lubricant, consider water-based lube because it is better for your vaginal health.
3. Have more sex
Indeed, it seems to be paradoxical. However, having more sex can help avoid vaginal tissue thinning and irritation. This happens because arousal increases blood flow to your genital area, which keeps vaginal tissues healthy.
4. Talk with your partner
Lack of communication about sex after menopause might aggravate the problems you're having. Help your spouse understand what you're going through, specifically the lack of libido and physical discomfort. This way, they will be able to understand that your low sex drive is not a result of personal rejection. Similarly, discuss gently what you desire and what modifications may be required to keep things moving between the two of you.
5. Practice yoga and meditation
Yoga and meditation may improve your libido and orgasms. This is due to the fact that they reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. Moreover, mindful activities might assist you in being more aware of the slightest changes in your body.
6. Be more self-confident
Women could experience discomfort or lack of confidence due to the considerable physical changes caused by menopause, especially if they gain weight. Changes in body shape and weight increase are common in older women. It is important for women to recognize that the changes they are going through are natural and they should avoid comparing themselves to artificial ideals.
7. Try something new
Menopause should not be seen as the end of experimentation. Take this transition into a new life stage as an opportunity to try something new, whether it's switching up your partner's sex position or changing nighttime activity for a quickie at lunch. After all, you never know whether something is going to feel amazing unless you try it.
8. Exercise more
Exercise is one of the best things you can do if you're still having problems with your libido. Exercise, which might take the form of walking or gym visits, benefits your health by boosting your stamina. When your energy levels improve, you will be more motivated to spend time with your lover rather than being sluggish and having no energy for sex at all.
9. Don’t skip foreplay
It may take a bit longer to become aroused after menopause. Foreplay can be an enjoyable approach to stimulate your "responsive" desire. That's when you don't desire sex "out of the blue," but you appreciate closeness after you get started. You might want to spend more time kissing or touching before engaging in sex.
